I want to love myself more!

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Life comes with it's contradictions, but no human age was ideologically so contradictory than ours. "Love yourself" or "Self Love" is the motto of this generation. And may I say, the drug, the ultimate opium. In this blog, let's talk about the economics of self love. 
Why do we want something? When we do not have it. Why we do not have love for ourselves. Because, from the beginning, from the time we are born, we are not the most spectacular thing around us. Human society assumes the existence of life and specially the existence of any single human being as given and tries to build an infrastructure of additional desires on it. Who are you? Just a human? Everyone here is a human! Be something else! Be something more! If you want to be human, be an empathetic one, be muscular, be manly or womanly and so on. Be a doctor, be a scientist, be an engineer, be an architect. 

Manufactured want

This creates a split in human which makes a wish to create a unique identity within the society. The want is manufactured inside our heads. The biggest artificial demand of our lives is ourselves. Then we go on a treasure hunt of finding what is already within us. 

Should I need to have a reason to love myself? 

Enlightenment, the age of reason taught us to question everything. Have an inquisitive approach to life. So, we like this way of questioning. Why we should respect ourselves? We do not have any objective reason for that. This kind of so called objective reasoning is the reason of our all miseries in our heads. We spend ourselves in our thoughts by this line of questioning. 


Thoughts spend you, you spend your thoughts. 

Through, this kind of dialectical approach to our selves, we get trapped in the capitalist trap of self love. Go to gym, Achieve something in life and blah blah and blah. We spend our thoughts days and nights either loathing ourselves or trying to love ourselves, but this love is fake. 

Why is it fake? 
Anything which comes with a cost of reason, cannot be authentic. Ever thought that the epistemology of reasoning is flawed. What I mean by this is that most of the knowledge is experience based. Reason is just a B grade justification of the same. Numerous times it has happened, that a scientific theory was proved wrong by some experiment and then a substitute theory with a substitute math was given to explain the same. Why don't we question at that point of time, that if we can have an equally good reasoning to explain something in two distinct ways, can we trust reasoning to reason about loving ourselves? 

Normative solution
I, like you, am trapped too. Why should you expect from me a solution? I, too should not. But, let's see if we can come up with something. I think, if you are trapped in the disease, you should enjoy your symptoms. And you should accept that you are not mentally healthy. If you feel yourself less physically, go to gym, if you feel intellectually less, go to library. Go everywhere the empty want to love yourself takes you. And overcome every insecurity you have. Let me jump to the end now. 
When you will overcome your all insecurities with full fury, you will get to know this matrix of self love. You will know, you loved yourself all along. You were always there for yourself when you felt less. You were the one who decided to work hard. So, this market of self validation will become short that day. 
You will exit market with buying some fake love for yourself. You will understand that anything from the market will create it's own demand further and anything that you need is already within you. 
My man! My girl! My dearest person reading this! 
Exit the market! Do not buy any product! 


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